In a world full of distractions and constant change, you may find it challenging to truly be 'mentally present' with your partner, or even with yourself. Here, we speak to co-founders of global holistic wellness platform DivineYou, mother-daughter duo Hiral and Priyanka Ghaghda, who highlight that "a conscious relationship with another always begins with a thriving relationship with yourself."
Priyanka Ghaghda. Image courtesy of DivineYou
What is a conscious relationship?
HG: An ideal relationship is a space and connection between two people which is generative, contributes to the wellbeing of both parties involved and fosters a space that does not require either of the parties to forego any part of themselves. A scenario where either one has to compromise themself and go against what is inherently true for them in their universe is not a conscious relationship.
It becomes a burden rather than being a contribution to the other. This brings us to another crucial element in a relationship - intimacy with yourself. When you truly know yourself and are comfortable in your skin, [that] is when you can truly contribute to the other [person] in the relationship.
You can never have intimacy with another if you are avoiding being alone with yourself or have a fear of rejection. You will always find yourself cutting parts and pieces of yourself in order to accommodate the other. A conscious relationship with another always begins with a thriving relationship with yourself, where you don't give your power to anyone outside of you for anything and are the source of your happiness at all times.
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